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Greetings, Part 2
Hello again. I posted an introduction a couple of weeks ago but it was very brief and I made the mistake of posting a link, which I did not realize until it was pointed out to me that was in violation of HusDom policy (which makes perfect sense, and my apologies!)
So, allow me to elaborate more on my situation. For starters, I do have to admit that my sub and I are not married. We are engaged, and pretty much act as if we are married in all aspects of our relationship, except for that one final step that will be forthcoming in the next year. We are excited about that. She does consider herself to be owned by me, as it states in our contract, but being married, I think, will add another level to our D/s relationship.
Anyway, about us. We have been together as a couple for more than five years, and as a D/s couple for a little more than three. We entered it because our relationship was in desperate need of structure at the time due to a few different factors. Not to mention that we were turned on by some of the sexual aspects of it. She had considered herself a submissive person for quite some time, but never acted it out in the manner that we have done. I never really considered myself Dominant, but as we started the journey, was surprised how it seemed like such a natural part of who I am. What is interesting, though, as I think about it, is that I am a Dominant because I needed to be in my relationship with her; I don’t know if it something I would do with anyone else.
We are 24/7 D/s, to the best that we can be with children in the house and family always coming over, etc. It is easier for us in the bedroom than it is in day to day life, where I have rules and guidelines for her to follow. I do not consider myself to be that strict, and she would agree. But I am consistent, and that right there is one of the most important things any Dom could do with his sub. Lack of consistency sends mixed messages and can lead to a sub who acts out. I know this, because in the beginning, I was quite inconsistent and at time the end result would be disastrous.
Whereas my last intro was too short, this one is probably too long. I am looking forward to interacting with others and especially in the chat rooms. As a Dom, I am always trying to learn on regular basis. I do not have all of the answers, and any Dom who thinks they do and does not always challenge himself or push himself, is going about it the wrong way. Bettering ourselves will in turn better our subs, and isn’t that what we are always trying to do?
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2 Replies
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Welcome again! Howdy
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akmaster49,
Welcome aboard…
Lack of consistency sends mixed messages
Worth highlighting…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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