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Greetings!
First of all, I apologize for not making an intro sooner, to be quite honest I wasn’t really sure what I should say.
I’m a 35yo father of one spunky little boy, and married to my true love of 13 years, 9 of that have been married.
Over the last few years our marriage has grown extremely vanilla. We were very much in love when I first started pursuing her, she’s a preacher’s daughter that has just enough slutty side to her that I just love. However, over a period of time like most marriages things get into a rut, we got used to being around each other and not talking.
What happened a couple of months ago was just out of left field for me….she said that she wanted me to take more of a aggressive role in our lives. We had typically had a 50/50 responsibility as far as decisions to being made, even down to the point that we couldn’t decide on where we would eat if we go out…which doesn’t sound like it would be THAT big of a problem, it was. It cascaded over into everything else. So, by aggressive role, I had no idea really that she wanted to pursue a D/s relationship. I guess I’m so stuck in my ways that I’m still not totally sure where to begin. We’ve decided that at first we were going to stick with bedroom tactics at first, and then see if it can branch out to more every day life.I know that I’m not the only one that may have felt silly by treating his wife as a sub. I’ve worked so hard at making sure that she was my equal that I guess I have a mental block on being her Dom, that I don’t want to hurt her.
Hopefully, I’ll start to meld into this new environment and I won’t feel so strange about commanding her. I know that she has voiced her frustration over me not immediately taking the reigns, so I’m all open for any tips that anyone can offer in the future.
Take care.
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2 Replies
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DadofGTO,
Welcome to HusDOM and thank you for the great introduction. It is always nice to read others stories.
Let me say that you are most definitely not alone. I believe that most every new Dom here will tell you of similar experiences when they started out. As far as your sub becoming frustrated, that sounds about right. When you begin this lifestyle your sub desires it more than anything. You are doing the right thing in taking your time. You have a long time to get it right. You won’t always. Don’t get in a rush. Communicate and enjoy each and every new experience.
I look forward to hearing about your journey in the future. If she has not already joined it would be a good idea to have your sub join LK’s site. There she will find the sub-port that she needs.
Good day,
My Darlings Sir
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DadofGTO,
Welcome aboard,
The awkwardness will subside in due time… As MDS has already pointed out, take your time and set up the foundation at your own pace.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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