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Greetings
Hello all. Glad to be among you fine gents. Breifly, my wife and I are mere fledglings to the D/s-M lifestyle. Neither one of us have had any prior life experience with BDSM. 17+ years together with two small children at home and we are only now really beginning to have the structure, harmony, and intimacy that we have both yearned for and beyond.
It was my wife, Brightmoon, that approached me many months ago with her desire to be spanked as punishment to alleviate her guilt and stress. I did not understand initially what she really wanted and offered to explore erotic spanking or even more pain oriented light bondage and spanking but she insisted that her needs were not sexual or BDSM related. Months later I found out that she had been regularly self spanking at the command of various Sirs, Masters, and Daddies given to her online at a popular spanking site. Further research into her online activity and I began to understand what she needed and that is when our lifestyle paradigm shifted.
We are currently practicing 24/7 Domestic Discipline and D/s-M with preference to D/s-M when we are in the bedroom or on date night and strictly discipline and guidance for the day to day life. It has been quite a learning curve for both of us, particularly with small children at home adding a high level of required complexity to our efforts logistically speaking. I am very proud of my Brightmoon’s efforts but have also been disappointed at times. I can definitely blame my inexperience for her bratty behaviors but I am working hard to train and correct that with consistency.
I find that this site in particular is a trove of helpful information that seems very compatible with the lifestyle we are now both committed to, and I look forward to exchanging ideas with you all in the future.
-Scorch
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Sir:
From my own experience, married for 23 years, with two years into the D/s world.
My and my wife were talking last night that these last two years have been the most fulfilling, the more intense and the ones where we grew up the most as couple.
Our affection and loyalty to each other are so much stronger since I started to take care of my sub’s physical and emotional needs, as her Dom.
It is a long learning curve, but well worth the effort.
The articles on this site are very well written, you probably won’t find better help to become the best Dominant you can be for your lady.
Keep it up !-
Hector,
I enjoy learning of couples that have found success and that feel as though this lifestyle has given them such rewarding and fulfilling experiences.
Keep up the good work,
Mr Fox
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Scorch,
Welcome aboard!
It will be interesting to learn more about you and your lifestyle. As for me D/s-M is the relationship itself and not the bedroom activity, D/s-M is what many others would label 24/7.
Look forward to seeing you in the chat.
Best wishes
Mr Fox
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Mr. Fox, thanks for having me. I suppose I should clarify, yes I agree that D/s-M is how we now relate to each other 24/7 but we started out with strictly Domestic Discipline which is also 24/7. This seemed to have a much lighter D/s dynamic than we needed and we didn’t have that dynamic in the bedroom. It was only when I became Sir in the bedroom also and we agreed to add BDSM elements within defined limits contractually that the magic happened. We now see real changes in our relationship for the better because of this. I still employ the elements of discipline only that we started with but we seem to have a much deeper D/s relationship all the time now as defined and described in your blogs. I will always continue to learn and modify of course and am appreciative of help and advice.
Hector, thanks for the affirmation. Your success makes me hopeful.
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Scorch,
I understand now. I misunderstood your introduction post.
It makes perfect sense…
Mr Fox
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Hehe, clear as mud ehh?
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Howdy and welcome to both of you.
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