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Greetings
Got an e-mail form Mr. B suggesting I introduce myself. I must admit to being slightly self-conscious about admitting this side of myself to others however I have found this site very useful so figure i’d give it a go heh.
Me and my Neko (Wifes sub name) have had some trial and error with D/S relationships over our 4 years of married life. Unfortunately I was going off a lot of bad advice and bad porn and made some mistakes. That combined with a bad history of the bad kind of dominant little boys who liked to use and abuse her sexually (cheating, self-esteem destruction, the usual high-school player BS) before she met me has made her very skittish about the D/S idea. Recently we had a discussion about all this and decided that we both were still very interested in a D/S relation so I went looking for real advice for married couples who want to enjoy D/S.
Imagine my surprise when i found an entire website devoted to this kind of thing. So after reading the website for a day or two I figured out that sometimes slow and steady is the best way to do this (definitely not something taught by porn or the BDSM lifestyle places I used to read). So that is what we are doing, and it is working great so far.
Right now we are at the very beginning stages, light verbal control and some small physical things, have not been using any tools or ropes or such yet. with her background I am focusing more on healing her past scars and slowly teaching her how good a real man can make her feel after what those boys did to her.
Sorry for being so wordy but a intro post is supposed to have background information >:). Glad to find a place of like minded people and looking forward to the pleasurable journey that i’m sure this will be.
Oh and I do know about the counterpart to this website and I will have Neko check it out once she has developed a little more. Do not want to put to much on her at once now that she has started to heal and enjoy being mine.
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4 Replies
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Good stuff. Welcome
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Great post. Thank you for sharing and welcome to the Husdom community. Some great people and great advice can be found here.
SirHamlet
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Great introduction, welcome to the community. I will say that my duchess was very nervous at first as well and SUBMRS has been an invaluable resource to her. LK and the moderators there are very understanding of early trepidation.
Best Regards
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Awesome introduction. Thank you for sharing so much about yourself and your dynamic. I trust you will find this group to be welcoming and non-judging. A safe place to share and grow this side of yourself. Don’t be shy 🙂
Look forward to seeing you around.
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