Dominant Mentoring?

[sir-hermosa-amb]

I have not worked with a “Dominant Mentor” personally.

However:

During my time on this site, I have acted as a mentor, and received mentorship from multiple members of the community during my time and conversations here. Being open and honest, explaining my issues, receiving a verbal ass kicking when I’m being an idiot, and getting solid advice as well.

This being the community that it is, I am comfortable that the gentlemen here are in roughly the same situation, with roughly the same relationship goals as I have. I feel that is extremely important when receiving advice, as it is already focused towards my goals.

I realize that lately the chat has been a little quiet, but I would also encourage you to get online and see who’s there. I very much enjoyed chatting with you yesterday evening.

Also, every Sunday morning Beastly has a mentoring chat on zoom. I also enjoy logging in there to just chat with him, and you may also find that when you get in and say hello, there might be resources here that fit your needs too.

That’s just me.

What would a Dominant Mentor look like for you? What would you want to get out of it? What kind of qualifications should they have? What particular areas of your dynamic are you feeling that you need advice/encouragement?

Cheers

[Sir-Longhorn]

Thanks Sir Hermosa for your reply. I also enjoy the time I have on the site but I think a mentor would be a helpful addition. I think our D/s relationship is pretty solid in the bedroom but am trying to enhance our D/s relationship everywhere else. Plus having kids at home is always a challenge. I have read about Dominant Mentors on other sites so was hopeful that someone had an experience share on it. Let’s continue to discuss.

[sir-hermosa-amb]

I have also read about dominant mentors on multiple sites, and I have to say that my overall impression was not good. Lol.

It seems that there’s a lot of snipers out there that are “mentoring” just looking to catch your sub.

I’ve also run into a lot of weekend warrior types that are absolute arseholes that tout themselves as dominants. And really give poor advice.

All that being said, I’m sure it’s possible that there are good ones out there. But unfortunately I don’t know where you could find one, or how you could verify that they ARE quality without dealing with a bunch of bull$&@! First.

[sir-hermosa-amb]

I think the biggest flag for me would be that the mentor would be dealing with me personally and never meet/talk/communicate with my sub. At the end of the day they truly have NO reason to have any contact with her. You want to mentor me? Fine. Want to talk about my struggles and how to improve them? Excellent. But if you need any info about my sub, it comes through me and my filters.

[Wabash1970]

I think mentoring is a brilliant idea. I have questions. For example, I see things about spankings/maintenance spankings…..but what is that for? Sure, I like the idea of spanking My Little Lovely but what does it do other than give a thrill? Im thinking mainly about the maintenance/regular part.

Im not fishing for an answer here. Im saying that mentoring might be a good idea.

Maybe my question would be a goo discussion thread. Yes? No?