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Do I belong here.
I am not really sure if I belong here. That is to say I don’t know if where I am at, or possibly heading, fits into this group. Let me explain.
My wife and I have been married for over 25 years. Up until recently our sex life has been mostly vanilla. A few times a year we might explore a bit out of our comfort zone. But never anything too wild. A few years ago we purchased some wrist and ankle restraints. This wasn’t anything too serious, more something to let you look like you are restrained. Up until recently we used these a few times a year. When we did use them it was usually only for a few minutes and then we would move on to something else. They were a toy to play with, but nothing more.
But that started changing a few months ago. Now they are more the focus of the evening. And now it is at least a weekly thing. Even when we don’t use the restraints my wife seems to want me to be more domineering over her and the evening. All of this has been very exciting, but totally unplanned.
At this point I have no idea if this is going to be a lasting thing or just a phase we are going through. I feel that maybe this is something my wife wants more of. Unfortunately she is quite reserved about talking about such things, so it will most likely be my feeling her out.
I know BDSM can be dangerous if not done properly and that there are various guidelines to prevent that. So I guess I am here to learn and explore. I would like to learn how such a relationship should be conducted. And how to guide my wife in that direction if it turns out to be what she desires.
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The longer you are here the more you come to realize the sex is the icing on a glorious cake. We’ve been married 27 years. Really figuring each other out finally. Welcome.
The only way this works is great communication.
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iiac,
Welcome aboard!
This community is really about the relationship, however, these relationships are closely tied to BDSM activities. There are many members here that posses a lot of knowledge in that area as well.
Some may not realize this but lk and I began our journey in the bedroom, the kink. It organically, and quickly I might add, developed into our dynamic, D/s-M.
This could be one fantastic journey for both of you.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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