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me and my wife have started this life style choice and we went from either no talking to at each others throats to an almost separation and she came up with the idea of the bdsm and it is working are marriage is way stronger then it has been i just need some help with with either attitude and punishments etc
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DomPat,
First, welcome to the Den!
You are not the first, nor will you be the last to need help with attitude and questions. Are there specific questions you have around attitude and punishements? Keep in mind that the direction of the dynamic is really in your hands as the Dom. You control a significant part of both of your attitudes and overall mood.
Catch us in the chat with specific questions and we will help the best we can.
Welcome,
Hunter
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DomPat42,
Welcome aboard!
Hunter is absolutely correct, you can catch us in the chat to ask questions.
You may also begin a forum topic on any questions that you may have. I would suggest a single question per forum topic.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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than you guys first question is my sub has an attitude sometimes just to test if i will punish her or stick to my guns what would you guys recommend i do?
thanks pat
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Dompat42,
Welcome to husDOM,
If you think she is testing you, then I would do as you said and stick to your guns and punisher her. I would also sit down with her and tell her that you are putting in 100% into the relatioship, and you expect her to do the same. When she acts up it puts stress on you as a Dom. The purpose of being a Dom is to make your submissive feel safe and stress free. If she wants to feel like a submissive then she must also act as one.
Best regards,
Sir -
i have said that to her but she likes the “test” i feel should her punishment become stronger as time goes on. what should be a good punishment we do spanking and deprivements i would love for one of you guys on here to read our contracts to go over and see if there is anything i missed when we wrote it
thanks
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Dompat42,
You may want to post a new forum thread regarding rules and contracts in another forum. It may become lost in the Intro Forum…
I am sure many of us would offer some input on your contract. I would also offer that contracts are very personal and should be specific to each couple. Be sure that the rules and punishments fit your personal dynamic.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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