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Aspiring Dom
Some history; married my first sex partner who I met right out of high school and divorced after 12 yrs. We never experimented sexually. I dedicated my life to her and unfortunately sheltered myself from any kind of self growth. Fast forward two years and I meet my current girlfriend and mother of my 1yr old son which I love more than anything in this world. She spent some time in the BDSM scene before we met so I know that she has that itch. The problem is that I have no previous exposure to it. Don’t know the terminology or what it all entails. Hitting a woman is still something that I’m not comfortable with. I want to change for her. I want to change for us.
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2 Replies
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instig8,
Welcome aboard,
Dont feel the pressure. If you want to be a Dominant you will need to possess exceptional confidence and nothing diminishes confidence like being unprepared or making unnecessary mistakes.
Take your time, if she has waited this long she will be thrilled that you are learning and be more than happy to allow you to catch up.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Go slow and realize that “impact play” and hitting are way different things. I had a similar hang up two years ago. Realized that it was fun for her and then I started getting off watching her getting off. Consensual and safe because I’m always in control. I never drink prior to a scene. We have safe words. We use them. I have safe word one time as a DOM. Called red and we stopped. She respected the hell out of that.
Welcome. Glad you found us.
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