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A proper introduction.
A few days ago I made a quick, to the point intro post.
I wasn’t entirely sure of this sites direction, and I wasn’t positive my wife knew what she was asking for. (Neither of us have set out D/a names yet)Fast forward to today, and I’m here to properly introduce myself, my situation, and my wife’s newlynfound honesty to herself.
My wife and I have been together for 10 years. At 30 years old it’s quite an accomplishment. And we are both very proud of it.
She comes from a very Vanilla family. (Please correct me if I am using any phrases or words incorrectly, I’m new to this life, but not the bedroom mindset)She was taught that masturbation is wrong for girls, and only slightly acceptable for boys because we can not control ourselves. She has only ever known what I call “Christian” bedroom activities, and oral play evaded her completely until only a few years ago.
Myself, I come from a teenage life where 15 was a wonderful age of exploration. My high school girlfriends were very, very friendly….with each other. Of coarse I never complained. And my sexual appetite was large and my range of experience broad from a very early start with curious partners.
Bedroom wise, my marriage has always been a struggle for me. However my wife has so many qualities that I have never seemed to find that it all seemed worth it.
With patience, love and gentle guidance I’ve managed to slowly train and mold my wife to where she is today.I work shift work and am gone 3 weeks at a time, sometimes more. We have two children ages 4 and 3, so she is the household head when I am gone. And I need to allow her to maintain that persona (mostly) when I am home, to keep the kids in check.
Much like many of yourselves im assuming, the book/movie “50 shades of grey” was a turning point for the better in my marriages bedroom life.
2 weeks ago, my wife wrote me an email. Stating how she’s done “some reading” and wants to “completely submit to you in the bedroom”I thought, “right on!! Finally!!”
So I started reading myself, came across a few blogs and articles, one which led me to here, and the subMrs site. Which I am getting my wife on now.All last week we were sexting. FaceTime at night, I wrote her a few story/scenario/fantasies I had and it went over better than I could have imagined.
I came home 3 nights ago. And the sexual energy was higher than it had been in years. That night after the kids were sleeping, I turned to her, told her what I wanted her wearing when I came out of the shower. And viola! She obeyed. Or submitted. Either way.I knew I had to make the first night right. Not too much, but assert dominance.
I had her kneel down before me, facing away, I sat and massaged her neck and back to relax the atmosphere, and we talked. Openly. Which for her is very, very difficult.We’ve always had exceptionally good communication in the relationship, so getting her to talk openly in the bedroom wasn’t hard once she stopped denying her true desire.
Once she knew I was in control, once she submitted, it was easy for her. The flood gates opened, in could ask anything, receiving real answers. Her wants, her desire, her expectations of the newfound relationship.With that out of the way, we started easy. But that’s as far as I’m going to go with you guys in here. Haha
So here I am, thankful for this blog and forum, and waiting for the kids to go to sleep tonight.
I haven’t written any scenes yet, but have given plenty of thought to it.
I will be buying the full membership here shortly. And using my three week shift to write a scene and pass my list of expectations to here before I come home.
Thank you for all your information and experience on this blog,
Ok not sure yet what I want to be addressed by, Sir is too formal for me, Daddy makes her cringe.
I read a post about growth coming naturally, and that makes sense. We have these next few days to dip our toes in the water.
She likes it, I know she does. And my biggest struggle is going to be
1) not being greedy, there’s 10 years of pent up want and desire here
2)not giving her the O so easy. I can get her to O on demand, and I love it. But need to make her earn it now.I’ll be around, hopefully soon she will be too on the subMrs side.
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Welcome to husDOM Unchosen. Im glad that you found us. Remember, its easy to get caught up in the excitement of all the new discoveries. Patience is perhaps one of the most important early skills to master as you both embark on your new journey together.
Hope to chat sometime,
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