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A just beginning for JustBegenning
Hello All,
My name is JustBeggining and I have been with my loving wife for 15 years through dating and marriage. We have 2 small children,live in the Midwest US and have been fortunate enough that I could be a bread winner and her a SAHM. We work well together for we both have natural tendencies for our Dom/sub roles, however it is only recently that we began to place a label on it and create a more structured dynamic. It always worked in the bedroom, but we wanted it more 24/7.
I will admit that we tried this before when we were younger and I failed. I did not have the maturity to handle the responsibilities and power she gave me. There was no fallout or loss of love, just simply a return to par. I believe I have grown since then and have become the man that she can place her faith back into. I believe she feels the same as she is willing and eager for me take control again. She really is my good girl.
Like many of you, I have scoured the internet in search of knowledge. I found this place and immediately appreciated the focus on applying this lifestyle within a loving and faithful relationship. Most resources offer what I would consider “play” advice and although it can be valuable, it does not hit upon or acknowledge the work that goes into a committed and loving relationship. I firmly believe that she can’t truly be my sub if she doesn’t know that I will be there even when the play time is over.
I look forward to interacting with you all. This will be my first post on any website so that in itself marks a change in me. And I like change.
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4 Replies
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Welcome to husDom JustBeginning,
My Wench and I have been together 46 years and married for 44. We were always a little Dominate and submissive but had no true power exchange.
I also was not mature enough in my younger years to really understand or handle it properly.We now have been D/s-M for around 5 years and are enjoying it and growing closer to each other every year.
Please check out the forums and join in on the chats in the Fox’s Den. Another thing to do is check the calendar at the top of the page and join in on the video chats if you want. Some are for premium members and some are for all members.
LK’s subMrs.com site is a great way for your sub to get information and they have some wonderful subs on there.
Again welcome to husDom and enjoy your journey
Buck
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Welcome JustBeginning, my minx is also a SAHM and I have been blessed with a job that allows that. I had understood during our first 9 years or our marriage, that taking care of her needs meant preferring her and letting her make the little day to day decisions. What I didn’t know is that I was frustrating her and leaving her exhausted and spent constantly. Since we have started this and she has given me her submission, she is thriving knowing that when I am home she simply can follow and knows she will be taken care of.
Downtime and constant communication help us tremendously.
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Welcome home. Alot can change in 15 years and it sounds like just the thing for you to grow further together. I applaud your decision & look forward to getting to know everyone here as time allows.
Best Regards – Rebar
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JustBeginning,
Welcome aboard,
lk and I also gravitated naturally out of the bedroom into a full-time D/s-M dynamic. I personally believe that path is a natural progression for many of us.
I would venture to guess that many have failed at this lifestyle on their first attempt if they were, to be honest. But not many have the courage to come back and press forward again. Life is difficult, relationships are difficult. It is those that aren’t going to sit on the sidelines but would rather earn something that is worth having, something magnificent that are going to be able to experience life to its fullest.
Welcome back…
Having a community now and finding camaraderie will be a major difference between your first attempt at the lifestyle and your now. And as you have already stated, the maturity will go a long way as well.
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