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3 weeks in.
Hello Gentlemen. I’m so happy to have found this community. After 10 years of marriage, Ma petite louloutte approached me with the suggestion of adopting the D/s lifestyle. She stumbled across Mr. Fox’s blog and subsequently subMrs’s and said it made the most sense out of everything on the internet and pointed towards the path she wanted our relationship to follow. What wonderful realizations we’ve had in just these first three weeks! It is truly life-changing and exactly what we both have needed. I’m grateful to have this site to help light the way. We still need to work out a contract so any tips in that department would be appreciated. We’ve been feeling things out, trying to get into the mindset, and thinking about what it is we are both searching for. I am excited to awaken the Dom inside me. Thank you all.
-Le Gardien
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Welcome!!!!!!
Tip One: no contract unless that is something you both feel strongly about.
Tip Two: Too many rules means you spend all your time enforcing them and run the risk of it not being fun any longer.
Tip Three: no real punishments for 6-12 months. “Funishments” are different.
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Le Gardien,
Welcone to Husdom,
You have received tips from some experienced Doms and this is wonderful. If was to give any tip it would be to “make it your own”.
There is not a guide line to D/s nor is there a time line for anything in D/s, this includes, contracts, rules, scening and punishments.
Please take what you like and leave the rest.
Best regards,
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I needed a “D/s – M for Dummies” book when I started! Thank goodness For all the folks here that tried to help me keep from stepping into pot holes. Sometimes I listened. Some times I actually listened! Haha
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Thank you for the input gentlemen. It looks like we’re on the right path. We have just a couple of rules in place and they help us get into the mindset. I like the idea of only “funishment” while we’re getting started. We also have a 9 year old so we’ll be another couple tackling the D/s lifestyle while working around a family. I’m looking forward to all of this though because I want some D/s traits to subtly enter our daily life and how our family runs. It will be an interesting journey and again, thank you all for the current and future advice.
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Your relationship will be different from all of ours. Please keep in mind my earlier comments are strictly from my point of view and based on stumbling blocks others here helped me get over.
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