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3 months in and loving it
Hello, fellow doms. I did not realize this forum was here until recently otherwise I would have done it sooner. So, here I go.
I’ve been married for over ten years now and I would categorize it as good, borderline great. My wife first broached the subject of D/s with me several months ago. She is a voracious reader and some of her stories centered around that lifestyle.
Initially, I had two main objections: first, the stories she was reading and most of the online info did not include monogamous marriage. And second, I could not see us fitting into those roles. I have a very laid back, go with the flow personality and she is the very take charge, go getter type.
I voiced my concerns and told her to shelve the idea. I could tell she was disappointed with my decision but went with it.
Some time later, she brought it up again and this time around she showed me the submrs and husdom sites, and explained that it fit exactly what she was looking for. The fact that she was still searching made me realize it was something very important to her and something she craved.
Although I was still hesitant, I agreed to be her Dom, even though I had no idea what that meant at the time.
What an eye opener these past three months have been. It has taken our good marriage to so many new levels. I’m discovering the dominant in me that I was unaware of. I’m loving it and so is she. The other day she made the comment to me that she is so happy with the direction that our dynamic has taken us. I know there is always more to learn, but I must be doing something right. -
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Her Beast,
Welcome aboard!
What a wonderful introduction. I am very happy that you took the time to share your story with us. Many people stereo type the lifestyle with non monogamy and as you said almost everything online mimics the same value. Our communities are focused on monogamy and the benefits of a D/s-M marriage.
I applaude you for realizing that this lifestyle was important to your wife and taking action. You were obviously paying attention to her and her needs even prior to your official D/s relationship.
It sounds as though you really are doing something right… You also understand that we are always the student and that this lifestyle will take constant nurturing and vigilance.
I look forward to chatting with you soon!
Best wishes
Mr Fox
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Her Beast,
Welcome to husDom,
I had to chuckle a little when I read that your wife was a take charge go getter type. We just had a retreat where most of our subs were take charge, go getter types, but to their Doms they were submissive. That is one of the things the D/s-M dynamic different from all others.
Enjoy the journey and join in on the chats when you get a chance
Buck
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Thank you, Mr. Fox. That is very interesting, Buck. Understanding that she really did want to submit to me was a big hurdle, along with what it meant to be a Dom. I try to chat when I can but many times I’m the only one on. Oh well.
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