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Brand new to the concept
Hello. I’m what my research indicated may be properly referred to here as a “vanilla husband”. Last night my wife of 15 years, well almost our 15th anniversary is tomorrow, expressed interest in a D/s relationship and I’ve pretty much been researching it since looking for more information. It’s an intriguing idea but quite a change for us. If anything to date she has been in control and it was a surprise to hear this. We’ve agreed to start slowly and with plenty of research and forethought. We also agreed that while she wants me to take control and be her Dom neither of us are into the violent or consensual non-consent elements. So we’ve at least very roughly began to define some limits. Until I started researching and understanding the overall concept I had no idea that there are concepts well outside the stereotypical Sadomasochism that could add interesting depth to our relationship and provide my wife with the experience that she is looking for.
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Shamilton61,
Welcome Aboard,
We’ve agreed to start slowly and with plenty of research and forethought.
I really like to hear this and believe that it is the best way to approach this new journey that you and your submissive are about o embark on.
I suggest to new members to begin in the blogs and then progress to the forums…
If you have any questions along your endeavor please do not hesitate to constant me either via pm or you may email me as well. mfox@husdom.com
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Thank you. I’ve read most of the blog entries, lots and lots of good thoughts in there and I’ll definitely be continuing to read as much as I can. I doubt I’ll be very active in chat or forums yet, but eventually.
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shamilton61,
Take you time, there is no rush to participate in the chats or forums.
Participation within the community actually benefits your own dynamic. You will begin to submerse yourself, you thoughts, into other situations that you have not experienced yourself as of yet.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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I’m approaching month three and learning by leaps and bounds (it seemed like baby steps at first though)
If your wife is anything like mine she’ll have mile high expectations and will already be a near perfect sub.
Try to remind her that you’re both learning and that you need to take baby steps to get things right.
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Knight of Cups,
You are correct when you talk about beginning the journey with baby steps… And how it will not take long or too many baby steps before you are walking full stride. Excellent advice to all!
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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I had my Aine register in SubMrs tonight. She already seems to be very deep in a conversation. I think we are going to love it here, this community seems wonderful. The support I got on our first event, a wonderful date night for our anniversary really gave me the confidence I needed to make it a wonderful evening.
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shamilton61,
I like this statement so much that I am going to use it on our testimonial page providing that you don’t have any objections.
I am also looking forward to learning how your anniversary went…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Absolutely, I’d be honored for you to use it on the testimonial page. I am already working on writing about our first experience. I’ll definitely be sharing it in the stories section today or tommorow.
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Hi shamilton and welcome to the community , I also had my partner sign up to the SubMrs sight as i think it a great idea for the sub to get a none male advice about what is going on.
And also the sight is good for the growth of your Ds relationship as a idea from you may sound to wrong or painful, but from another sub it will sound like a great idea.-
Mr Miracle,
I couldn’t agree more…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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