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Greetings all
Greetings from Australia 🙂
This is all quite new to me, however my partner and I participate in various bdsm activities and we have begun to discuss exploring a D/s dynamic in our relationship.
Being the kind of person that likes to be informed and educated when entering into new things I stumbled across this site. I’ve currently been looking for info on initial negotiation/contract type stuff and I found a post on here and decided to join.
I look forward to reading and learning in preparation for this new and exciting step in my relationship
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Artogenus,
Welcome aboard!
I have not written too much about contracts yet, as I do not have one with lk. I do plan on addressing contracts in the near future as it appears to be where many new couples want to begin their new dynamic. My lack of an official contract with my lk should not convey that I do not have many ideas as well as opinions regarding them.
The first thing that I will set out to do regarding the terms of contracts and negotiation is to dispel that it is a negotiation at all.
When a D/s couple sits down to create a contract there should not be any negotiation as we most commonly think of it at all. There is absolutely no give and take. The most conservative position should be the ruling factor. Traditionally we think of a negotiation as you give up something and I will give up something.
The term Negotiation is also used when creating limits. Again there is no place for negotiation when setting limits.
I look forward ago chatting with you soon.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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I agree, negotiation is definitely not the best word for the context.
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