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An Introduction of Me
Hello fellow Doms!
I apologize if this is a long post. Being a writer, I tend to extend concepts and ideas further than needed in order to give a complete picture of a situation, circumstance, or description (see what I mean). With that being said, I will now introduce Me:
I am currently in the middle of a divorce which resulted from 21 years of verbal, emotional, and at times physical abuse. I am not sure when things took a turn for the worse, but before I married I was a confident and charismatic person. Somewhere along the line I lost myself and became a wimpy, afraid, and cowardly person. I am glad that chapter of my life is nearly over. Since I left, I have found myself again. It took a while, but I am here now. I never thought of myself as a dominant person, but I always seemed to have the affect on those around me that made them listen and do what I was saying needed to be done. I thought of myself more as a natural born leader. However, now I realize it was the Dom inside of me screaming to get out.
I wrote a 6 part series of erotic fiction for an erotic literature site. That is when I met kinkysweetness. She gave me her phone number and we talked for nearly 3 hours that night, ending with a phone sex session. Over the course of the next couple of weeks we started spending every waking moment on the phone. Many times she mentioned that she was a submissive. Through us talking and with gaining my confidence back we experimented with D/s through phone sex. It was amazing. She entered subspace with the guidance of my words alone.
I have been researching and practicing for the past month. Talking on the phone all that time before allowed us to explore each other totally and express our ideas, desires, and needs. We have not met physically yet. We have exchanged pictures (only PG-13 so far), but not done anything more than that besides talk on the phone, text, or chat of some sort. Obviously we are working toward a D/s relationship in the bedroom. However, this past week things took a slightly different turn when she asked me to help her get structure back into her life. We are not quite sure yet about a 24/7. We are thinking about 30-40 hours during the week and 24 hours a day on the weekends.
As a new Dom, I first felt that I may not have much to offer here, but then realized that just as with the workplace, new people can also bring ideas, concepts, advice, etc. to the table. Just because someone has been a Dom for a long time does not mean they know all of the answers or know all there is to know. However, I have to say that this site has the most comprehensive material which aligns to KS and my ideas of what our relationship should be. I look forward to not only learning from all of you, but also sharing any knowledge or insight I might be able to offer to the community.
Athanos
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1 Reply
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Anthanos,
Welcome aboard!
You brought up a very important point in your introduction. That point is that the new members and new husDOMs have much to offer us more ‘experienced’ Dominants.
Often times a new Dom will ask another Dominant a question and while answering the question the experienced Dom will have to examine his personal dynamic to articulate the answer. This self examination allows the Dominant to review his own situation and sometimes discover an opportunity to make subtle changes that allow his dynamic to grow.
New husDOMs are an intricate and much needed resource here at husDOM…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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