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Howdy
I made an initial introduction in chat, but since I just upgraded my membership it seems appropriate to formally introduce myself here. I’ve called myself a reluctant Dom because I never felt a need to impose my will on somebody else, in the libertarian sense. Since starting down the D/s path, that attitude is changing as I see how my wife wants me to impose my will on her. While it’s been a pretty exciting change, I remind myself that with great power comes great responsibility.
Finding this site was an opportunity for me. D/s isn’t a topic of conversation in our circle of friends, and if I broached the subject I doubt anyone would make an honest attempt to understand. I’m looking forward to participating in a community where I can ask questions, read & learn, and eventually be a contributor.
We haven’t been doing this long, so we are still feeling out boundaries. I periodically ask, “Are you green?”, and so far have mostly gotten a yes in reply. I’ve hit yellow a couple times, but not often. I will say it’s a marvelous feeling when my sub is bound and helpless, and I whisper in her ear, “Do you trust me?” and she answers, “Yes.” That trust is a precious thing that a guard carefully.
As the Dom in the relationship I feel some pressure, like being the screenwriter, producer, director, leading role, and prop guy in a movie production. I feel a need to be creative, so we don’t start a scene one day and she says, “Oh, number 12 again?” So far the feedback says I’m staying ahead of expectations.
The single biggest feature attracting me to this site is the practice of D/s within the context of marriage. Much of what I’ve read online involves parties, group scenes, and hook ups. That is not for us. We are dedicated to each other in monogamy.
I’ll take some time to browse the site and learn my way around. Nice to be part of the community.
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JimD59,
“I remind myself that with great power comes great responsibility.”
This cant be overstated…
The single biggest feature attracting me to this site is the practice of D/s within the context of marriage. Much of what I’ve read online involves parties, group scenes, and hook ups. That is not for us. We are dedicated to each other in monogamy.
I believe that this is what makes us so unique here at husDOM. With the long term aspect, forever, commitment involved in a marriage, the principles and values are different than almost everything else out there. That is why I began husDOM. I couldn’t find any valuable information that truly resonated with me and my personal values. I knew that I wanted D/s in our marriage but I also knew that I didn’t want to have to sacrifice who we were as individuals in order to obtain it.
Welcome aboard sir…
Best wishes
Mr Fox
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