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An Introduction
Hello I have been husband for 21 years this September. I have been with my wife for over 26. We are high school sweat hearts and have been through everything together. Some good some…. really bad. We are battle hardened to say the least. The wars and battles have taken there toll. The early years where wrought with fighting and hating each other, sometimes just simmering under the surface for months at a time. Things not spoken that just become assumed or expected can rip a relationship apart. We had a few years of serious medical issues to add to the mix of stress and workload in the relationship. Someone or something in the universe held us together,… maybe just our own insecurities. There have been many times where I said this is it, I’ve had all I can take, and yet Im still here?… I am completely out of my mind for this girl! I love her so much! She means so much to me for so many reasons to many to describe in a shortish introduction? So a few months ago (6 or so) when she came to me with this idea of a d/s relationship, I was/am taken back by it to say the least! You want me to do WHAT!! The idea of being someones dominant is a little unnerving, especially hers? She is my wife, my children’s mother, my friend. Definitely not a dirty little slut that needs to be taken and shown who’s in charge…. or so i thought. (A mistake I don’t intend to duplicate.) I have read a few books on BDSM, I have spent numerous hours searching the internet for an answer to how, why, and when? Then I found husDOM! We are building and gaining trust back, based and pure and honest communication. I am slowly beginning to understand why she needs me in ways I didn’t think anyone needed someone. She needs a leader someone to give her structure. I find myself in a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions. Every time we come together and talk about this new dynamic we connect in a way we haven’t in years. I want to take this time and thank all who are involved with making this site what it is. It is truly inspiring.
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6 Replies
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Welcome Mr. Dominus, glad to hear that this is helping your commmunication and relationship. We have found the dynamic to be a tremendous benefit ourselves but are only a few months (or weeks depending on the level of our dynamic) in. The chat is a big benefit as you can ask questions when struggling.
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Thank you Sir OTW. Its good to have a community of like minded people at your finger tips.
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Welcome Mr. Dominus… Hope you find the dynamic that works for you….. Hit me up whenever always willing to talk.
Still
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Thank you Still I most certainly will.
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Welcome to husDOM Mr.Dominus. like many of us we have been married many years and some not many. My wench and i have been together 46 years and married for 44. We have been Ds/M for 5 years now. This dynamic also has drawn us closer then ever.
I see you have found out real quick the difference between being a dominate and being domineering. Being dominate is being a leader. Please feel free to join in on the chats and ask questions.
There are plenty of blogs and forums to glean information from and if you can’t find something use the search icon at the top.
Once again welcome and enjoy the journey
Buck
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Thank you Buck, wow 46 years! That is remarkable. You must have some stories.
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