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  • Brand Spanking New

    Posted by mr-deezy on at

    Greetings everyone. I’m a 41-year-old engineer and music producer married to a 33-year-old landscape design architect. We have been together for six years, have been married for two, and are pregnant with our first child.

    My wife, and avid Podcast consumer, recently listened to a podcast that spoke about how a woman has improved her psychological health by becoming a bondage submissive. We have toyed with kink bondage and power exchange over the years, but as our relationship has matured, we’ve become more predictably boring. Now we’d like to make an earnest attempt at the lifestyle — at least the nook that is comfortable for us!

    Though mostly vanilla (or chocolate might be more appropriate), I am very interested in becoming a talented rigger and mastering my dirty talk. Good to meet you all.

    The Mrs. will be on subMrs very soon.

    buck-amb replied 6 years, 2 months ago 5 Members · 6 Replies
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  • husdom

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    Mr Deezy,

    Welcome aboard,

    I must admit that your post drew my attention immediately. I think it was because you used the word ‘spanking’ in the title. lol

    Congratulations on the new pregnancy… That will add an entirely different point of view to the dynamic. Please be sure to share your experience as well. There are also many members that have begun their journeys while being pregnant and many others on here with very young children. The chat and the forums will be a wonderful resource on the topic.

    Give us an update after your submissive signs up on subMrs. We can ask our submissives to give her a warm welcome.

    Best wishes,

    Mr Fox

  • OTW-AMB

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    Welcome, we just joined as well, this process has made our marriage much stronger already and we are excited to see what our relationship looks like in a year.

  • mr-deezy

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    Hi Mr. Fox,

    Thanks for being so welcoming. My wife and I are bursting with possibilities after finding this site and its sister site. I relate to something you said in the chat where my wife and I know that we are D/s at our core but are completely lacking structure (and in many ways, guidance). This isn’t something that we are prepared to communicate with just anyone about!

    Glad the word “spanking” caught your eye. Our home and sex lives took a turn for the better a couple of years back when discovered using ropes, bondage tape, handcuffs, etc. really added to the experience. And neither I nor she can get enough of my reddening her ass with my bare hand and with a wooden paddle called the “Attitude Adjuster.” However, that type of activity turned into a “just a phase” as both of us grew more uncomfortable about the what/when/where/how of such a relationship would work. Is this for spice every now end then? Should it usually be like this?

    Fast forward to today — my wife is curious about getting back in, and we had quite the “welcome back” scene yesterday. It was hot enough that she woke up in middle of the night to sneak another O (or multiples; she rarely cums just once). Not fair. 🙂

    There is now also the question about preserving momentum — how do we make this regular? We aren’t known for being very spontaneous …

    Glad to be part of the community.

    • husdom

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      Mr. Deezy,

      This isn’t something that we are prepared to communicate with just anyone about!

      This is one of the greatest attributes of our community. Our ambassadors have made an effort to set a standard and to maintain the atmosphere here on husDOM. By doing so they have created a safe place where like minded Dominants can come together and share and develop camaraderie. I have shared much more of myself, my real authentic self, here on husDOM than with almost any other person besides lk of course.

      And now you have taken ‘spanking’ and progressed to “redden her ass with your bare hand.” Now this is still one of my favorite things on the planet to do. There is something about the skin on skin feeling and the warming and tingling of my own hand as I spank her beautiful ass that is priceless.

      Your welcome back scene sounds amazing. And what a wonderful way to get back into the saddle…

      Your comment about preserving momentum… It is a challenge that is very real and each and everyone of us face the same challenge. That is why participation here within the community seems to be of such value. The participation helps keep our dynamic, our Dominance and her submission, at the forefront of our minds.

      Best wishes

      Mr Fox

  • still

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    Welcome Mr. Deezy
    I have felt the same sir. This site and the helpful and freindly persons here are a blessing.

    Hope you find what you need and your sub knows how hard you are working. Hit me up if you want to chat or just say hi.

    Still

  • buck-amb

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    Welcome to husDOM Mr. Deezy,

    You have entered a site that is nothing like any other. Congratulations on the little one on the way. This alone will bring you and your sub closer together and the D/s will carry it along. Wench and my youngest turns 30 this month but I still remember holding her in the delivery room.

    One nice thing about the D/s-M dynamic is that each journey is its own and husDOM can relate to each one. Read the forums and blogs, be on the chats and find out what works for you. There is much information to be had on here.

    Once again welcome and hope to see you on the chat

    Buck

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