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Returning to the life
I have written the following in my profile but thought it was a good introduction too so here goes:
I started out with my now wife, in a basic D/s relationship. It was essentially a vanilla relationship that developed naturally into D/s – something we both felt naturally and also wanted. However, due to various personal factors, this dynamic was eroded and broadly disappeared. In fact, at the present time, it is pretty much a relationship that is stagnant on the sex front with next to no D/s principals in place other than the basic foundation of traditional marriages whereby I generally make the decisions revolving around our lives.
I am (back) here again as I know we both desire the D/s dynamic and to a greater extent, crave this. We are a long way from being able to go there due to what is now mostly emotional issues on her side. These are not to be taken lightly as she is not in a great mental health state, from being bullied at work to losing her mother recently, she is fragile. It is my express hope that through this wonderful site, I can find some tools and support in bringing back to our lives something we both want and need. -
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Hi SirScampi
I truly enjoyed chatting with you last night and again wish you a warm welcome back and appreciate the advice you shared last night. The Dom is strong within you😊. I am sorry that your journey has taken a detour but excited for you and your angel that the desire and fire are still burning bright. I look forward to future chats, advice, and sharing that will strengthen our dynamic and provide you with the support you are looking for to achieve the D/s-M State you desire.
My sincerest condolences to your angel and my best to you both.
Welcome back!
Mr G8tr-
Hi Mr.G 🙂
Thanks for the awesome response. Yes, I too enjoyed the chat and it was nice to be able to impart elements of my own past learnings to another. The ups and downs we all experience really do show how very important that bond of husband and wife is above all else. I saw a lovely sign the other say that struck a chord with me but I cannot recall the exact words but it was something like this:I let you walk ahead of me so you can lead the way.
I walk behind you because I’ll always have your back.Looking forward to many more chats!
SirS
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SirScampi1965,
Welcome back to husDOM! It is a pleasure to see you back again…
Please offer my most sincere condolences to your Angel. I can not even imagine the challenges that she has been facing recently. And the challenges that you have been charged with as well. I believe that she is a very fortunate sub to have you guiding her through the challenging times.
It is also my genuine hope that you will find the support that you are searching for on husDOM. I cant imagine a better place to share your journey than here.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Thank you Mr Fox. Greatly appreciated. I have been considering your suggestion about sharing our journey and I think on one hand it is vital I do but on the other important that I not… at least for now. I am going to document everything for myself and do so in order that when the time comes to share (and it will I am sure) I can do so with authority and meaningful manner.
Right now Myangel’s bubble is extremely small and fragile. Bullying is a terrible thing that is not well understood or acknowledged in adult society. For someone who’s life was dedicated to caring for others to have that destroyed… I cannot yet understand the full extent of such trauma myself. I am learning though and together with her, I will find salvation for her and bring her back to a place I know she finds true peace.
I look forward to chatting from time to time with yourself and the other wonderful true Dominants that are part of this awesome community.
SirS
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SirScampi,
Welcome back to HusDOM. I am sorry for your angel’s loss and the treatment she’s received at work. I have often wondered why it is that some people never grow beyond high school. It’s a sad world we live in, in that regard.
My lady lost her father in December last year and her uncle just last month. To boot, she too has suffered bullying at work. Our dynamic has been her saving grace. She tells me that my Dominance has become her refuge. She says that she is able to shed all of the pain, anger, and sadness by serving me. Accomplishing the tasks I give her and receiving my praise helps her to understand her true self worth and to realize that she doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.
I think that a healthy D/s dynamic can still function even when times get so rough. Of course, these rough patches can negatively impact the dynamic. That is true. But working through and bouncing back from those hard times, can serve to strengthen both the dynamic and the relationship.
I wish you both the best.
Regards,
MasterOfAngels
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