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New to everything
Hello everyone,
I have been interested in the lifestyle for a few years now and with baby steps have brought my wife of three years (we have been together for eleven) to the precipice. She is concerned because in this world of misinformation she believes that embracing this will make her a doormat. Any insight from the community in bridging this gap would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for any information.
BarlowN
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5 Replies
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BarlowN,
Aside from sharing your research with her that is contrary to what she thinks, talk to her about joining subMrs.com. there she can talk to our subs and find out first hand what it is like.
Mr. K sir
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BarlowN,
As Mr.K said, there is plenty of research indicating quite the opposite of whts she is worried about. The subMrs.com site should show that there are plenty fo subs that are not doormats.No true Dom on this site would treat his sub in that manner.Master Chief
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BarlowN,
Welcome aboard!
As Mr K Sir and Master Chief have already suggested, having your submissive join the subMrs™ community and talk among other like minded submissives will bring a lot of clarity to her perception of what a submissive is and isn’t.
What you can do to alter her perception is to lead in a manner that demonstrates what Dominance is. There is no better way to convince her that she is not a doormat than to prove it to her your self. Begin your journey where she is at and take it one step at a time. Join in the chat and discuss your dynamic with others. They will be able to offer guidance and support on these matters.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Thank you Mr. Fox, Mr K Sir and Master Chief. All of these ideas are great. One area she does seem to respond to is asserting myself in both daily activities as well as discussions. I am taking the lead role while attempting to purge myself of certain wishy washy characteristics that have plagued me in the past. I appreciate having an avenue in which to go when I need a little help along the way. Thank you.
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Barlow,
Welcome aboard! I congratulate you and your Mrs on the decision to embark on this wonderful journey together. I am sure you will both find it to be fulfilling and rewarding in many ways.
Now, to your sub’s concerns of becoming a doormat. I have no choice but to parrot what others have said. The best way to mitigate her fears in this arena is through your Dominance. The more she experiences your care and attention, the less worried she’ll be of becoming a doormat.
Now, if she fears becoming a doormat to the rest of the world, this is a bit different but, still fairly easily overcome. Many subs are dominant and powerful people in the workforce. Their joy in submission comes from being able to turn that off when they are in their Dom’s presence. If she fears that transition between the two worlds, rituals can help a great deal. My lady and I have a ritual for parting ways before work and one for coming back together after. Each signals the power shift taking place, allowing her to adjust her mindset accordingly.
In either case, the key is your Dominance and leadership. So long as you’re in control and keeping her best interests in mind, things will work out just fine. I wish you and your Mrs the best of luck in your journey.
Regards,
MasterOfAngels
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