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Hello and intro
Hi everyone
Im 39 and am well versed in D/s relationships. I lean towards high protocol and am very much into rope play (I make my own linen rope because most sites sell jute and hemp but I prefer linen).I am not married but I think this site can help me with a specific issue I have. Ive been into D/s since my mid twenties and have had numerous submissives. My issue though is that I have alternated between relationships that were based on kink, as in we met at a kink party or something similar, and rather vanilla relationships.
Ive struggled for a while now to introduce my Dom side into my vanilla relationships due to my job and my public/out persona. Ive carried some shame about this part of me which has negatively impacted my relationships, kink and vanilla.
Now I am much more comfortable with this aspect of my life and am looking for tips and guidance as to how to introduce D/s into a rather vanilla relationship.
Im very comfortable with thorough communication. Just looking for some help in this area.
Thanks all
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Vyadha,
My issue though is that I have alternated between relationships that were based on kink, as in we met at a kink party or something similar, and rather vanilla relationships.
You are wise to recognize that we differentiate between the kink and the relationship itself in a D/s dynamic. That is what I believe is key to creating a long term sustainable Dominance and submissive relationship.
Now I am much more comfortable with this aspect of my life and am looking for tips and guidance as to how to introduce D/s into a rather vanilla relationship.
My personal journey began with lk bringing the lifestyle to me. There are several members here at husDOM that have successfully brought the dynamic to their wives. I am certain that someone will be able to discuss their experience with you.
Once the dynamic begins don’t be fooled into believing that who brought the dynamics to who makes any difference.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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