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  • #71776
     Beastly 
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    I had posted this on the forums awhile back I thought I would share this again to provide assistance to those just starting out with this in their dynamic.
    I hope this is as helpful for everyone as it has been for me.

    Beastly

    Scene Title

    Overall goal of the scene?

    What will she wear?

    What will I wear?

    What senses will you take away, if any?

    What specific instructions will need to be provided to help her feel confident and comfortable during the scene? Such as do I need to provide instructions before the scene etc…

    Where will the scene take place?

    What “tools” will be used?

    How will the tools be used and when?

    What special care will I need to consider with the tools? This could include sanitizing, warming up, having clean up supplies available, etc…

    What do I need to be aware of regarding my Sub’s comfort and state of being during the scene?

    How will I ensure adequate aftercare?

  • #71781
     Sir OTW | AMB 
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    I used this template for our last scene after you reposted in chat when you returned to the site. It was helpful. Specifically, the questions of overall goal, special prep needed for toys etc.

    • #71785
       Beastly 
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      I am glad it was so helpful. Our subs put so much trust in us. It is nice to have something like this to ensure when we plan a scene we are working through the whole process from start to finish.

      Thank you for your feedback,

      Beastly

  • #71846
     Risk 
    Participant

    Basic | Dominant

    What do you mean by goal? Can you give an example?

    • #71848
       Beastly 
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      A goal could be testing a limit or exploring the use of a toy or simply just becoming familiar with how much you can push your sub. For example last night during a scene my goal was to make sure that I was maintaining awareness of how intense the impact play was for my Belle. On a scale of 1-10 I would ask her on occasion to tell me what intensity she was at. This helped me to know how much impact I could provide and maintain a meaningful experience for her, but not go so far that she would need to use a safe word.

      I hope this helps and thank you for the question!

      • #71850
         Risk 
        Participant

        Basic | Dominant

        Thanks! Very helpful

  • #71849
     Beastly 
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    From a recent video chat my Belle had on our sister site I thought I would add a reminder regarding kid care. Many of us have kids at home and making sure that we are either ready to take care of a child in the middle of a scene or ideally make sure the kids are doing something or a time of day that kids are not a worry. Our subs let go of so much and give so much during the scenes we plan. With that trust an interruption that we are not sure how to handle can be jarring. I hope this topic of scene planning continues to be a blessing for many.

    -Beastly

    Scene Title

    Overall goal of the scene?

    How will I manage distractions from kids during the scene or ensure that it will not be an issue?

    What will she wear?

    What will I wear?

    What senses will you take away, if any?

    What specific instructions will need to be provided to help her feel confident and comfortable during the scene? Such as do I need to provide instructions before the scene etc…

    Where will the scene take place?

    What “tools” will be used?

    How will the tools be used and when?

    What special care will I need to consider with the tools? This could include sanitizing, warming up, having clean up supplies available, etc…

    What do I need to be aware of regarding my Sub’s comfort and state of being during the scene?

    How will I ensure adequate aftercare?

  • #71873
     Mr. Fox | Founder D/s-M 
    Keymaster

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    Beastly,

    Great Post!

    When considering scenes I also consider the atmosphere…

    The 5 senses…

    Sight – Sound – Touch – Taste – Touch

    Inclusive of this would be attributes such as room temperature, music and things of that nature.

    Best wishes

    Mr Fox

    • #71915
       Beastly 
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      Everyone has provided excellent feedback and thoughts regarding this outline so I thought I would add and adjust some things. Let me know what you all think.

      Scene Title

      Overall goal of the scene?

      How will I manage distractions from kids during the scene or ensure that it will not be an issue?

      What will she wear?

      What will I wear?

      What senses will you take away, if any? Sight – Sound – Touch – Taste – Touch

      What senses can you use to your advantage to enhance the experience? Sight – Sound – Touch – Taste – Touch

      What specific instructions will need to be provided to help her feel confident and comfortable during the scene? Such as do I need to provide instructions before the scene etc…

      What environment will the scene take place?

      What “tools” will be used?

      How will the tools be used and when?

      What special care will I need to consider with the tools? This could include sanitizing, warming up, having clean up supplies available, etc…

      What do I need to be aware of regarding my Sub’s comfort and state of being during the scene?

      How will I ensure adequate aftercare?

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