- November 9, 2018 at 5:34 am #71708
My sub identifies as taken in hand, I’m just looking for general info on day to day and making her feel comfortable and guided. We’ve had a very long relationship with many dynamics and changes, we have 2 kids together and this is where life has taken her. I want to understand and ensure I’m being my best for her. So any help, reading materials etc would be appreciated.
- November 9, 2018 at 6:20 am #71709
Welcome to husDom, if I were you I would start with the blogs, they are a wealth of information. Ask questions in the chat and engage with other members, everyone is willing to help. Does your wife have aspirations to become your sub or is she strictly interested in the TIH dynamic? The great thing about a D/s-M relationship is you make it work for you and your partner.
I look forward to chatting with you sometime. Again welcome.
Mr. K sir
- November 9, 2018 at 6:41 am #71710
She wants to be mine but at the same time I’m under no illusions that if i can’t be what she needs I’ll have to let her go, so I’m trying to understand her needs and figure out my place and what my capabilities are.
- November 9, 2018 at 6:56 am #71711
TIH has so many aspects and is personalized much like D/s-M, without knowing more about what the 2 of you want it’s hard to point you in the direction of any particular posts. For instance are you vanilla or bdsm, do you practice domestic discipline or just use corrections?. The leadership role is much like a D/s-M leadership role, I would start with any blog posts on leadership and go from there. Just type leadership in the search bar and any posts that fit will come up.
Mr. K sir
- November 9, 2018 at 7:03 am #71712
Awesome i will look into thank you so much.
- November 9, 2018 at 7:32 am #71714
So how did this happen for you? What is your dynamic like? I feel very kind of overwhelmed by all of this and all the info and stuff lol
- November 9, 2018 at 2:19 pm #71715
For us it was a way to try to save our marriage, we had gotten to the point where we were more like roommates then husband and wife. We started bedroom only and it progressed naturally from there. Like everyone else here our dynamic is unique to us and fits what we need. I am the leader and all decisions fall on me to make, I do get my subs input and make decisions based on what is best for our relationship. She is also my most prized possession. My job is to take care of, keep safe and nurture her while helping her grow as my submissive. When she breaks a rule it is my responsibility to stay consistent with correction and punishment when needed, and to reward her when she pleases me. I am in complete control of our sex life and she is mine to use as I see fit when ever I like. This is just a quick, basic synopsis of our dynamic but it covers the general idea of our relationship.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask me anything.
Mr. K sir
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