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Introduction
Greetings all,
My wife of 30 years, Little T, and I have been experimenting with bondage for some time. I joined this site a while back but have been watching and learning before jumping in. A few weeks ago, we made the move to a D/S relationship and things have been fantastic. I thank you all for your contributions to this site as I learned much from you. Probably the most useful advice was the blog on feeding your submissive. It has been invaluable in getting her bought into things.My wife is naturally submissive and loves pleasing others more than herself. Unfortunately, I was missing the boat because she had no idea what I really wanted and was left guessing. I’ve discovered that she was craving attention and for me to take control. Like most men I had been conditioned to approach marriage and decisions as a 50/50 partnership, which invariably led to frustration for both of us. We talked about it and she agreed to be more submissive.
Since I became more dominant, she defers nearly every decision to me and I return the favor by showering her with attention. The fact that she will kneel in front of me on command makes me want to do much, much more for her than before. She is reveling in the attention and agrees she is very happy.
Little T loves getting daily tasks to complete as she was unable to prioritize things. She also loves me selecting little things like clothing and nail color. She clearly understands what I want and expect and obediently goes along. It’s important to point out that while dominant, I am trying very hard not to be domineering. I frequently get her input prior to making decisions and spoil her quite a bit.
I look forward to sharing knowledge and ideas with you in the future.
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3 Replies
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Mister D,
Welcome to HusDOM! And hopefully your Little T is aware of, and has joined our submissive site http://www.subMrs.com It is a site for submissive women to learn and grow as we do here on husDOM!
“Showering her with attention” is a definite positive side of what we do. I always tell others that this lifestyle has given My Sweetness back the gentleman that she dated and married…someone who puts her on a pedestal and treats her like a gentleman should. The line between being a Dominant and being domineering is fine, but the fact that you are concerned about it speaks volumes as to how you are taking your role as a Dominant!
Best of luck on your journey and I look forward to chatting in the near future as well as learning more about you and your journey!
Take Care!
Mr. B
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Mister D,
Welcome aboard!
It Sounds as though you are off to a wonderful beginning.
From your comments coupled with your concern of being or becoming domineering tells me that you are on the right track. Continue to communicate with your submissive and pay attention to what she says and what she doesn’t say.
I as well look forward to learning more about your dynamic.
Best wishes
Mr Fox
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Thanks for the encouraging words gentkemen. I look forward to more conversations!
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